Images of SoaringTM
The butterfly—the transformed caterpillar—flying
off into the blue sky, is one of the images chosen to represent the concept
of SOARing.™ The butterfly represents positive transformation, rebirth,
joy, and happiness.
Soaring™ is offered as a Grief AIDE to help in
surviving a loss, be it acute or long-standing. This concept is probably
best utilized in circumstances that require picking oneself up and "flying"
again following the loss and restoring self-esteem and self-confidence
rather than crawling around consumed by grief.
cannot be content to creep,
feels the impulse to SOAR.
Soaring™ provides positive motivation for
overcoming loss. The types of losses or crises best suited to this concept
include relationship, occcupation, financial setbacks, diagnoses with long-standing
medical conditions etc. These losses require that one accept and integrate
the loss and recognize that their life is forever changed. The concept
of Soaring™ can provide grieving people with a framework for transitioning
through that change:
In the grief process, the bereaved person must deal
with the loss, crisis, or significant change. Many people may hide away
from the rest of the world much like being in a cocoon while trying to
heal. This cocoon phase is one of transformation and often introspection
and reflection. Finally after a time of self-imposed seclusion and transition,
the grieving person emerges from the cocoon having undergone a major transformation,
metamorphosed into a different person as the butterfly.
Sensing the need and determining
it is time to change.
Opening the mind and the heart
Ameliorate the Grief and assimilating
Reconcile the loss, releasing
the pain (if possible) and recognizing you are forever transformed.
wrong with wanting more?
If you can fly,
With all there is,
why settle for
Just a piece of sky?
For those who prefer a stronger symbolic image,
the eagle—flying off into the blue sky— was also chosen to illustrate the
concept of Soaring.™ The eagle is a bird of majesty, our national symbol
of strength, courage and facing adversity. There is something special about
the eagle that sets it apart from the other birds that makes it a good
representation of overcoming adversity.
And there is
a Catskill eagle in some souls that can alike dive down into the blackest
gorges, and soar out of them again and become invisible in the sunny spaces.
And even if he for ever flies within the gorge, that gorge is in the mountains;
so that even in his lowest swoop the mountain eagle is still higher than
other birds upon the plain, even though they soar.
There has been a resurgence in the use of
this image of strength during the healing phase from the September 11,
2001 tragedy. The image of the eagle helps to remind us of the country's
and individual's strength, courage and resiliency to survive present and
Many times, especially during times of sadness
and doubt, I have sat mesmerized, looked to the skies, watching the birds
fly over head thinking how peaceful and carefree the appear. Watching birds
in flight, one can imagine them taking away your cares and worries on their
wings, as they disappear into the heavens. The ability that birds possess
to fly high and fly away escaping their situation is very appealing, especially
for those who have ever been in situations or circumstances that they have
wanted to, but been unable to escape.
A flock of seagulls
carefree and peaceful.
"Please, take me with
I want to be free.
Kirsti A. Dyer,
The eagle can also help to visually illustrate
the concept of Soaring™ by providing positive imagery for overcoming the
loss. Significant losses or life-changing crisis force people to change.
Soaring™ can provide people with a framework for transitioning through
the change: Sensing the need and determining it is time to change. Opening
the mind and the heart to change. Ameliorate the Grief and assimilating
the loss. Reconcile the loss, releasing the pain (if possible) and finally recognizing you are forever transformed. Ultimately,
the grieving person emerges from the crisis changed and transformed as
the butterfly, reborn as the phoenix or with the strength to overcome adversity
as the eagle.
The Soaring™ can be used to better understand
the grieving process and consequently, shape attitudes and choose the environment
in which the loss is processed. A positive, uplifting outlook can aid the
bereaved in getting through the grieving process. Life is very different
following a loss and the grieving person is forever transformed by the
loss, but it is important to remember that life continues and the bereaved
can eventually find wings to SOAR again.
We become like
our environment, and our environment becomes like us.
Everything around us
molds us and shapes us.
So it is important to
choose our environment with care: one that is positive,
one that lifts us up
and gives us wings to soar.
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is © by Maryann Sterling at Maryann's
Art and used within the copyright guidelines of the artist.
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